Out of the Settee: How to Support Your Bowler Without Adding Pressure Paperback – January 28, 2026

Out of the Settee is a compassionate, practical guide for parents of competitive youth bowlers who want to support their child without adding pressure.If you’ve ever sat in the stands with your heart racing…Held your breath after a missed spare…Or wondered what to say in the car without making things worse…This book was written for you.Written by World Champion bowler and mindset coach Diandra Asbaty, Out of the Settee helps parents understand the invisible role they play in their child’s performance, confidence, and long-term love for the game. Not through coaching tips or technical advice, but through presence, emotional safety, and intentional language.This is not a book about fixing shots.It’s a book about protecting identity.Inside, you’ll learn:What to say (and what not to say) before, during, and after competitionHow your facial expressions, tone, and body language impact your child’s nervous systemSimple scripts to use when your bowler is frustrated, overwhelmed, quiet, or thrivingHow to handle car rides, tough blocks, big tournaments, and emotional moments without adding pressureHow to support confidence, resilience, and joy without tying love to outcomesGrounded in real-life experience and backed by neuroscience, Out of the Settee gives parents tools they can actually use in the moment, especially when emotions are high and words feel hard to find.This guide is for:Parents of competitive youth bowlers at any levelFamilies navigating Junior Gold, tournaments, leagues, and high-pressure eventsParents who care deeply about who their child is becoming, not just how they performAt its core, Out of the Settee is a reminder that your child doesn’t need perfection.They need presence.Because long after the scores fade, they will remember how they felt when they looked at your face while they were trying. Read more